Dear *******,
My heart breaks for you. It really does. But you have to understand, what you did was wrong. I understand you're going through a lot, but you must grasp the fact that some of it is your fault and you, only YOU can set things right. Lying and asking me to lie to cover up your own- isn't the way to go about it. *sigh* You still have a lot of growing up to do. Sometimes I think I'm the only sensible one around here.
You simply CAN'T base a relationship on a lie. You need to base it on truth and trust. Without that, things will go nowhere. And besides, one lie always leads to another. And where the heck do you get off asking me to cover up for you, and say that it was my lie? I'm not concerned about the fact that I'll be made to come off as the person in the wrong, but how does it even cross your mind to ask this?
You've made mistakes, and you need to suffer the consequences. I may be your friend, but I wouldn't be a very good friend if I shielded you from something you need, would I? You need to understand your mistake, and I'm not going to lie for you, however many times you plead me to. Otherwise you'd just end up making the same mistake again.
And if you weren't ready for the relationship, why did you get into it in the first place? If you weren't ready for the big steps that you took, why did you let things go so far? One simply has to be a little mature about these things. It's not a ball you're playing with, it's your life. Every decision counts. Every decision we make leads to the person we become.
At the end of the day, it's just a break-up. That's all. It's not the end of the world. There's simply no need to make such a hue and cry and act like Armageddon's come.
You're probably feeling angry and disappointed that I didn't stand up for you, and didn't support you. Believe me, I am supporting you, but in the way that you need, not the way that you want. Someday you'll understand, hopefully.
17 comments:
u scared me!!!
ohk!i hope it works out ,between you and *******.
"Bleeding lies lie scattered on the highway decked by the first rays,
And ghosts come to haunt the bride's fragile wildwood fays."
these are two lines from a poem of mine that i had decided never to reveal owing to its rather serene ferocity...but your post has somehow managed to convince me otherwise..
and i hope that u r able to make the correct decisions...all the best
@ Everyone: Erm.. This post DOES NOT refer to me- it refers to a friend of mine who is going through a few relationship problems.. Saikat and I have NOT broken up, but thank you for your concern! :)
@GRRR...the tiger meaows..eh?
Thanx 4 the piece of criticism..
Which part could u not interpret?
i guess your over developed brain cud get nothing.
And yes having visited your rather "nice" blogs let me tell you that dont f**k around with something you dont have the balls for..Meaow
@dream baron &tygr
c'mon guys...like the blog says...its just a break up!!!Just because you two are separated now doesnt mean u have to hate each other.There really isnt any need to resort to mindless backbiting..it wont help!!U may think itll impress the other but the rift will only grow.SO i suggest u guys stop acting juvenile and kiss and make up!!!that way ull be able to live HAPPILY"ahem" ever after
I never remember encoutering so many deaf and apparently blind people at the same time.
guys, she has said she hasnt broken up with saikat. what part of NOT BROKEN UP do you guys NOT understand??
dreamy and royal bengal fellas-
do you guys absolutely not know how to read?? im guessing so cuz clear words saying 'I am not broken up' still refuses to penetrate through the skulls of both of you. i mean u guys actually started a fight on another person's blog- washing your dirty linen in public eh? i suggest either stop washing it or keep it private, we have better things to read than your couple like arguements, especially now that it appears like you guys might start abusing each others family.
Please spare us the hell, we have enough to deal with already.
Wow...wen did i point a gun at anyone, comments have become threatening nowadays??
I am open to criticism as long as its criticism, tell me wot u felt was wrong with the poem..that is if "busy" people like u have that little bit of precious time for us "juveniles", no one's bound to like wot i write...
but dont make any ad hoc comment u just feel like making, its worse than any abuse one can utter..meaow
@ Dream Baron: Erm.. Why do you keep saying 'miaow'?? It sounds pretty idiotic... :P
@ No-one in particular: This fight is getting rather interesting!
the meowing aint never gonna help your cause dreamy, it makes yeh look like a cat in search for the tail that was hacked off by a drunk tramp.
first quit making yourself look like the backside of a baboon who hasn't bathed for ages, then expect others to do so.
i would rather love to stay out of this stupidity, but i feel that "joe" "b r" somehow that is the present form of Abhijan Barua,
must learn to shut his trap and quit yappin in some one else's business, first stop tryin to be the bloody chauvinistic anglo file u r tryin to be but desperately failing then try to veggie someone...even i am good at talking trash like pseudo LMB yankee...
@ Dream Baron: Dude, your grammar seems to have gone for a toss. And you want to talk about schools? Let's talk about schools then! You think Abhijan's a 'pseudo LMB Yankee' (by the way, that doesn't even make sense- do you even KNOW what a Yankee is?)... Then you would be a DBPC Dodo.. Yes, that's what we call guys from DBPC, because they're all so mind-numbingly stupid, and they can't speak English either, which would probably explain your lack of grammar.
Why can't you just admit you're in the wrong here? Why make such a big hue and cry out of it?
Stop being immature, and the next time you want to snarl, do it to someone else. DON'T pick on MY friends, for reasons that are not even their faults, and that too on my blog! If you want to bitch like a 13 year old girl whose boyfriend has ditched her, create your own blog and do it there!
whoa whoa whoa dreamy, lets take it one dream at a time yeah.
me a pseudo LMB yankie, allright, but i might have taken that as a compliment had i been living in USA.
obviously you didnt check my profile with functional eyes. but then you're dreamy so you get a consession there pal.
now lets talk about yappin away in someone else's blog, especially i aint the one who randomly started commenting on this blog and then act like i am the only one with the right to do so here.
oh wait..obviously thats not me, cuz its you isnt it? then lets talk about chauvinist( yeah there is no 2nd 'a' in the spelling) u shud have checked with fishy before calling me that cuz ull have found out that i actually hate chauvinists, which prolly means that i hate you as well. the option however remains open to you pal, then last but not least - anglo and me? that too in my present form, nahh you got it wrong mate, ive always been this way, not a recent developement you see
so all in all lets see, you said 3 main things in your last comment and flopped badly in all of them, plus a firing from the author herself must not have helped your ego either.
this means my previous comment has been further justified, you are an absolute angel man, cuz if it werent for you, my theory would not have been proved right.
:)
@Fishy...Okay now we are talking, how do i go about this...one tuna at a time?
Pseudo-as far as my little brain goes, it means false..
LMB-a bunch of...ok i will not venture further and besides everyone cannot be graded in the sameway just because he's from some school or so, but an avg LMB guy is the sort who wud treat his own fellows in a condescending manner,
Yankee-an avg American
a pseudo LMB Yankee-an LMB fellow who falsely feels that he is as "cool" as a Yankee..or any wentern person..(blindly immitating the west)
And wot was that about Bosco??
Dodo?
Our alumni are leaders in companies all over the world
in hindi a dodo wud translate into a "Ghatee"...for your kind information this "Dreamy" Ghatee is unfortunately a British Council certified playwright and has countless certificates and prizes to his name..in both bangla and english creative writing..and has also made it to BITS-Pilani..which for your information is an internationally acclaimed institute, this is just my story, my batchmates are even more successful, with admissions to IITs NITs NIDs NIFTs SRCC AFMC St.John's Christ Church Stanford Berkley's NTU let me not go on,
and yes they are not typical nerds they all have special extra-curricular talents..so i guess we are not Dodos
Abhijan Barua to "Joe" "BR" i dont think i need to specify any more on that..
it was my and tygr's fight, pop comes joe with a host of typically stupid LMB type, ad hoc comments,so i didnt pick on him
i am very well ready to take this rather pointless clash of words to my blog
@JOE...i am not against any one commenting about me in any way because i really dont care about who says what about me...all i say is that if dont like something about wot i write tell me wot it is, dont go about making comments that really are meaningless,
Now ur transformation to Joe Br seems really stupid to me but to you it feels good, and u are independant to do wotever u feel to ur name..so i hope u get what i mean,
And barring Subhashish and Varsha i have always disliked LMB & LMG people for their resentment to accept wot they are and for their trying to be wot they are not..
And i meaow because this blog smells of fish
@ Dream Baron: Okay, dude, enough is enough. Please leave my blog, and refrain from commenting anymore.
I'm not even going to bother continuing this fight and responding to your meaningless talk, since I prefer to let barking dogs bark.
@ tuna
ekki?? just when iw as enjoying the fight, arre ki mushkil dara na, lets continue please.
@dream baron
who'se told you that Ive changed my name from Abhijan to Joe BR? it's a nickname im quite fond cuz i came up with it myself. and damn right it's none of your business what people do to themselves but let me clear this largely common and wrong idea thaa people mostly in India seem to have. You are not what you are born as and put into but what you believe in and project yourself to be. so come giving me the crap of who never accepts what he/she is. its the opposite really of you folks never accepting some people for who they believe themselves to be cuz it doesn conform to the social milieus half the time. if i and my ways are westernised that's my choice and im pretty damn proud of myself for that to be honest.you can hate LMB and LMG my friend, I wont even blame you cuz i never felt proud to be in LMB myself. but whatever you say, it better not range anywhere close to calling me a Martinian, cuz i ain't one buddy, and dont tell me i am cuz i passed out from that place, there lies again what i said before, i aint an LMB GUY just cuz people expect me to be one, having been there. as for me popping up in this arguement, i was invited to take a look at it for which i actually cant thank my friend enough. you see it was driving the people concerned absolutely nutters so perhaps they needed some support to cope with it. who knows.
the rest - i don't honestly care what you think cuz i got nothing to prove to yeh mate, but i must say you got a gift of pissing people off, especially this person here who this blog belongs to is quite a hard person to piss off, trust me if she was then i would have been the first or atleast with the first ten to know, but you apparently managed to pull this one off quite neat, so i must give you a pat on the shoulder for being able to achieve something even a bastard like me has never managed to do.
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